My vent is about step-parenting. It is by far, hands down, 100%, indisputably the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. And the thing is, it's not even done or over yet, and it's only going to get worse (maybe). Step-parenting with my partner is not at all difficult. It's had some trying moments, but they were totally awesome learning experiences and helped reaffirm that we could parent together, and therefore secure the idea that we could raise a family together one day. The difficult part of step-parenting is co-parenting with the other biological parent.
I'm not here to bash or trash in any way. All I can really speak on is how it makes things infinitely more difficult when there is little-to-no communication, a lot of superiority, and clear divide of ideals. I was recently "threatened" with the oh-so-high-school "you and I will have problems" over a parenting choice that was agreed upon by my partner and I. And all I could say (per Facebook) was:
"Here's the thing about people making threats to me: Everything I do has a purpose and intention. Everything I do is backed with reasonable evidence and palpable results. Everything I do is to improve the well-being of me and those I love. And most importantly, everything I do is done with love and integrity, no matter how easy it would be to react impulsively and bitterly.
So, because I do things the way I do, I am not afraid. You can't be afraid when you didn't do anything wrong. Actions > words."
I wanted to vent that, but I also wanted to use this as an opportunity to transition into a brag. I have grown so much from this experience, as frustrating as it can be. I usually wake up the next day after ridiculous, unnecessary confrontations by cowering in self-doubt, insecurities, and retreat. This morning, I woke up happy, content, secure, and grounded. I was confident that I had done nothing wrong, and I regret nothing. I'm already looking forward to my next steps. THAT'S GROWTH!
I also wanted to brag that my hard work continues to pay off. I know it's been a while since I last updated, but in the last 2 years so much has blessed me. I got a new job this year that I LOVE. And merely 7 months later, yesterday, I was promoted. My business started a few months ago and I have been met with nothing but success. My future plans are becoming a reality. I couldn't be more happy with my life right now. I look forward to what's to come!
